Just completed a coaching session with Chuck. He was really insightful and managed to turn my frantic ramblings and cries for help into some revised 180s and personal goals:
A. Recognize my buttons - my spouse knows which buttons she can press to test me. The idea is to either get rid of those buttons altogether, or reprogram them with something more positive. B. Take COMPLETE ownership of the hurt and betrayal that I've caused my wife. She's been testing me with a lot of questions, but all I did was defend myself, rather than validate.
