Wife left me -

[lostnhurt]

Thanks SC. Im sorry to hear you are going thru similar. Frankly hard for me to read this board and read so many painful stories. Its like reliving it for me all over again.

It amazes me to this day how similar the stories are too. I guess thats why the D rate in this country is 50%, I think they make it too easy to D too, at least in my state. I know some require separation for one year first for example. Especially when kids are involved. For kids your life is just never the same, and I know as someone whose parents D when I was about 3 or 4. I NEVER imagined my own kids would go thru the same, my W was adopted. Making sure we kept our family together no matter what was always HUGE part of our discussions when we talked about having kids. And we were blessed with twins.

It just all feels so wrong. All I can do is be the best Dad I can be for those girls, and I will, always.

[Redo]

I guess thats why the D rate in this country is 50%, I think they make it too easy to D too, at least in my state

Amen to that. Funny, you'd think TX is lil more conservative rather than helping people to get divorced quickly. There's only a min 60 day waiting period here before a divorce decree is issued. My W cannot seem to wait even for that. Her 'happy train' is just waiting for her to get on board so that she can leave to 'happyland'

[lostnhurt]

Question - my W had the girls this weekend, they spent Saturday at a local park we all used to go to, thru out the day she sent me pictures of the girls playing. I didn't know what to make of it. I didn't reply for a while, didn't really know what to say - I just replied "very cute, thanks for sending".

Why did she send those to me? It just made me wish I was there with them.

Also, when she dropped them off Sunday, she told me the house looks good and told me the new shirt I had on looked good on me. Was surprised, didnt expect that. Just said thanks. Our exchange and interactions have been pleasant lately, I keep my anger in check now, but my gut feeling tells me its not because she's having any second thoughts on all this.

I know she is still spending a lot of time with OM, but I don't even mention or ask anymore.

My girls seem to be doing pretty well tho, in fact I think they are pretty happy. When W has them on week end, she tries to be sure she does something fun with them, and I do the same.

Still miss being all together tho.

Back to work.

[Starsky309]

Question - my W had the girls this weekend, they spent Saturday at a local park we all used to go to, thru out the day she sent me pictures of the girls playing. I didn't know what to make of it. I didn't reply for a while, didn't really know what to say - I just replied "very cute, thanks for sending".

Why did she send those to me? It just made me wish I was there with them.

Also, when she dropped them off Sunday, she told me the house looks good and told me the new shirt I had on looked good on me. Was surprised, didnt expect that. Just said thanks. Our exchange and interactions have been pleasant lately, I keep my anger in check now, but my gut feeling tells me its not because she's having any second thoughts on all this.

I suspect it has to do with this:

I finally had to serve her today, I filed months ago, never served her. Had hope things would change, but now that she's moved out, with OM, I had to or my case would be dismissed.

What sort of financial and custody arrangements did you file for?

Starsky

[♪CS♪]

Welcome to my world lost! I don't think I have an answer for you, but you can check out my sitch and see what I have done.

[ninelives]

The hardes part in all this lost is trying to figure out the mind of the WAW. For the most part, and my therapist will agree,
its not all that rational. There are so many decisions that they make that leave you and many others scratching their heads and then over analyzing it.

I think for the most part, I have determined that her decisions are mostly based on her reverting to teenage like behaviour and trying to recaputre her youth.

Dont try and overanalyze it as it will drive you crazy and probably misread it anyway. Remember, you are the logical one and she is not.

All the Best

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[lostnhurt]

CS, ive read some of your thread, see some similarities for sure. As Ive said many times before, so many similarities in most of the WAW stories Ive read.

nl, I think in my W's mind, sending me those pics was just a 'normal' thing to do and she thought I would like the pictures. Nothing more, nothing less.

A bit of good news, she found a job, started today. She seems very happy about it, she finally got a job as a medical assistant, which is what she went to school for.

Its kind of funny when I look at all she is doing, its like SHE is following the DB play book, GAL, 180's, focusing on herself, new hobbies like rock climbing, exercising.

I was doing pretty well at DBing a few months ago, but since I found out about OM and she moved out, I fell of the 'wagon', then it backed up over me, it seems like it brought me back to the day I got 'the bomb' ....

My days are still very up and down, but as time goes by, I find more up time and less down time. Its like same cycle as when I got 'the bomb', slowly trying to pull myself back together.

I have the girls this week end, so I am looking forward to that. My sister also comes over more often, my daughters LOVE their Aunt. Im so thankful she is spending more time with them.