LIS, you are helping so much because it sounds like you are very similar. You are both the same age so that does help a little as well.

I totally see that, where you are coming from and where my W may be coming from.

It's funny because she has never been "into" sex until we actually are "into" it. Once the engine gets revved, she's ready to go. But if it isn't, forget about it. I think right now, that engine is up on blocks smile

I like how you put the needs perspective. All guys should reread that. Wait, here. I'll post it again:

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But you are astute enough to understand your needs and her needs and which need to come first right now.
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That is great to show what is important. Get her needs fulfilled first and your needs will be fulfilled. I know that in my heart for sure so I have to believe it.

keep 'em coming ladies!

(wait, that sounded bad...)

m 40
w 38
married 15
together 18
d11, d8
bomb 12/19/10
2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE