3 kids for me meant a constant "crisis mode" - especially since oldest son has some special emotional challenges. I gave it all up, cut back on my work so much I didn't get any personal satisfaction out of it. Gave up real friendships - who had time? Full disclosure: she did this also. But I blamed her for putting me in this situation (more on other threads).
Obviously, this ain't workin'.
How do I get some power back? hmmmm, this isn't going to be easy. but it's all in the DBing book, right? detaching and such. One thing I've learned, (s)he who cares least has all the power.
As for the rest I suppose it's time to man up, go climb a mountain, drink a beer, and rub some dirt on it.
