GO LIS! I like the plan (remember, I dig goal setting) I think the biggest one is #3. Just have fun and enjoy time together. That could bring the feelings back.
oh and touches are good too. I can never get enough of that. Unless its on the bottom of my feets - that's just a little too much pleasure/pain...
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
Lis - just back on the board after a few days here and catching up - sounds like you had a stunning turn-a-round with your H -so I don't get the comment about your falling for "it" hook line and sinker - is this not continuing in a good direction it sounded fabulous from the comments I was reading above.
Today is a BIG day for me here, we have friends from out of the country that we have not seen in 26 years - they emailed me and invited both my w and I out for dinner tomorrow night - Saturday. The friends have no idea that we are separated. I let my W know of the invitation to join us for dinner and asked if she would agree to go - she wrote back saying that she appreciated the thought and would think about it and let me know if she will come or not.
We shall see. My hope is that she does agree to spend a fun evening with us, however is she will not, I am still going and am determined to have a fabulous time with old friends - I am on the path of GAL in many aspects, but I do hope that she will find it in her heart to join us.
I will let you all know if she does, or does not - irrespective of her decision , I am deciding on having a good day
M-58 W-56 Married 33 years BOMB -Sept/10 Separated 8 months
BITS (of Fruit) Firstlove
"Go Confidently in the direction of YOUR dreams - Live the life you've imagined" - Thoreau
Oh, Firstlove, I hope that she goes!!! I'm so glad that the GAL'ing is going well. That's so very hard to do. It was for me, at least. I will say a prayer that the Lord will put on her heart to go!!
H has been gone all week on business. He comes home tonight, but says that he's going to his apt and he'll see me tomorrow. Doesn't sound to me like someone who misses me the way he claims. The good news is that he has an excellent future in sales. He says all the right things. Oh well.
LIS, IDK, but consider, H may be feeling a little unsure and tentative. Going to his apt gives him a chance to center himself and prepare. No man likes to appear unsure or tentative. It feels like weakness. A salesperson must exude confidence, preparation is a key component of appearing confident.
IMO, you haven’t fallen for anything yet. You have a plan execute it, evaluate the feedback and adjust.
Remember no plan survives first contact. They all have to be adjusted. Good Luck. I will pray for you.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Yeah LIS, I wouldn't worry too much about your H going back to the apt to unwind after the business trip. Like Bolt said, we men need our time to unwind a little... and we LOVE women who give us the space to do it!
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
