Lost, hurt and scared ...

[MeMyselfandI]

Thank you Lorie, it is very difficult for the kids. I called my S this morning to see how he was doing. D answered his phone so I said hi, asked her how she was, etc. and she still seemed distant so I aksed her if S was awake yet. She said, I don't think so and I asked her if she could wake him, (it was time anyway) 'cause I wanted to talk to him. He and I chatted for a few minutes and I told him he should go and get some breakfast and get ready for school. He still sounded pretty sullen but a bit better I think.

Interestingly, D called back a few minutes later. She said, why did you just want to talk to S. Wow, how careful we have to be I guess. I said, I did talk to her but she didn't really seem to want to talk so I thought I wouldn't bother her. I also told her, I always want to talk to her, that I miss her very much, but she isn't very talkative on the phone so I just figured maybe she didn't want to talk. I said sorry to her and we talked for a couple of minutes.

I'm going to go see them at the hockey rink today just before I take off as they have school hockey and I really want to see them before I go. I guess maybe they are both struggling and I really think D is so afraid of losing her connection with D that she is doing whatever she thinks is necessary to make sure that doesn't happen and maybe this is part of why she seems so connected to OW so quickly. She went from running and hiding from OW and H about three weeks ago because of a hug, to full on, hang out, invite OW to her B-day party and it just doesn't seem like her at all.