I continue to be surprised at the willingness of my W to inflict pain and hurt.
Please be careful with this kind of thinking. Yes her actions and words are inflicting pain, but I always have to question the motives behind it. The intention.
With MLC, I don't know that there really is true intention most of the time, because there is not really rational thought.
Originally Posted By: CNS
Though I'm pi**ing her off by trying to validate her complaints and dropping the rope, she still manages to get the hooks in. Apparently I had a chance to get her back from OM but she's now lost all hope.
You control you, your thoughts, your actions, and your feelings. If she is getting her hooks in, it is because you are letting her.
I know it is hard, especially when they dangle reconciliation in your face, but trust me, I heard that too. I don't believe it was true.
I could have been the Goose that laid the Golden Eggs, and it would not have been true.
Just a way to get at us, because kinder methods aren't working so well.
When they know it doesn't hurt you any more, it will stop.
Originally Posted By: CNS
How do I continue to detach when W says she ready to file yet is still monitoring my phone?
You just do it. It is part of you moving forward, for you.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
