Yeah, getting an understanding of what they are feeling, what we are feeling and what MWD is trying to do with her techniques really, really made me feel better and more confident.
The chapter on raw spots really resonated with me! I liken this to the button pushing that we all talk about. I realized that I had raw spots I never knew about and was reacting badly!
We all know what you're looking forward to with the massage, Bolt Seriously, though, I understand what you are saying. It is important she get used to your touches again. It's a funny thing with some women (me being one of them). Once I lose that trust, it's hard for me to want to be touched. When my H tried to hug me when my dad got sick, I literally jumped back out of his way. And boy, did he notice! I had gotten used to no touches and it's a bit of a road back. Be patient with her on this. I know that you are trying so hard to be. She needs to feel safe again, that's all.
Seriously, though, I understand what you are saying. It is important she get used to your touches again. It's a funny thing with some women (me being one of them). Once I lose that trust, it's hard for me to want to be touched. When my H tried to hug me when my dad got sick, I literally jumped back out of his way. And boy, did he notice! I had gotten used to no touches and it's a bit of a road back. Be patient with her on this. I know that you are trying so hard to be. She needs to feel safe again, that's all.