Just wanted to start a new thread since the other was long.
Guys, perspective is everything. Perception is just below that. I had a great night last night with the W as I posted earlier. Great talk. I have a road map. Things are great.
We both slept deep and hard. First time for both of us in a long time.
It's funny though, because W woke up to go to work and wasn't terribly loquacious. Normally she is and NORMALLY when she isn't I would let my mind wonder - what's going on?
But you know what? Today, I held on to last night and completely put myself in her shoes. She just let a huge weight off her shoulders and is a little vulnerable. She is afraid to get hurt once again so she may be a little on the defensive side. PLUS it's 5am and she has to get ready to go to work.
Armed with that, I simply supported her (she asked me to pick up a stethoscope for her and I agreed to) and let her be.
She ended up talking a little more and we even laughed a little. She gave me a kiss - which given my current state of sickness, I wouldn't have been offended if I didn't get one
Today is a new day and I look forward to being creative for a change. I'm ready to have FUN again and not spend so much dang time worried about this R.
OH--
This is a question for the ladies (and Denver - who's getting a little sweet on me - I KID!!) W mentioned the fact that she got a little neck massage while at the nails place. I mentioned this morning that I would like to give her one ZERO strings attached either tonight or tomorrow. She agreed.
Was that a good move? I'm not going to pressure her but I know its something she likes (I'm pretty good at it) but in the past there was always strings attached. The only "string" for me is that I do it in a thong...WAIT! That's not me...the only string is that I get to touch my W.
thoughts???
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
