bolt, how great for you, on both levels you and denver have had such positive strides i sincerely wish you could together, raise a glass and celebrate!
just keep it slow and easy and let them come to you BUT as a woman i will say that we like to courted just modify it a bit with db
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Wow Bolt between you and Denver can you send the water your W's have been drinking so I can give some to my H?
Nothing I'm doing is working, but I am really psyched for you both. You guys kicked some major butt and for those who always say change is impossible...HA!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Bolt. That is awesome. I wish I could fly your therapist to TX and work some of that magic. I would love a list of things I could do to make my marriage work. That's is something I could relate to.
I guess, in the meantime, I need to get through some of these hard conversations in therapy, before we can start really working on us and finding out where the holes are and what areas need improvement for us to work. The sexual orientation piece in my relationship definitely adds a dynamic, but I just want to listen and learn what my wife's needs are.
Also, I have been taking your advice concerning detachment to heart. It has been difficult at times, but I think it is for the best.
Thanks, man.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
Yeah... well concerned for your situation. I've been keeping up with you Bolt!
What do you mean "YOU were concerned"??
Originally Posted By: Bolt
I'm glad I'm going through this - even though some days are brutal. I seriously feel that I'm learning a ton of stuff about myself - both good and bad.
Me too... Well the word 'glad' may be a little strong. But I really do feel that I've learned, and am learning, a lot about myself.
BITS Denver
typing never shows the expression on your face I meant it as you were concerned - you should see how I was concerned
just making a little joke which obviously fell flat
I'll be here all week! Try the veal and tip your waitstaff.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
Wow Bolt between you and Denver can you send the water your W's have been drinking so I can give some to my H?
Nothing I'm doing is working, but I am really psyched for you both. You guys kicked some major butt and for those who always say change is impossible...HA!
zen-I appreciate it for sure. Make sure to truly look at the small changes - no MATTER how small and hold on to them. If you are doing the work, I'm sure there are some changes; most times it's difficult to see and then remember.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
Bolt. That is awesome. I wish I could fly your therapist to TX and work some of that magic. I would love a list of things I could do to make my marriage work. That's is something I could relate to.
I guess, in the meantime, I need to get through some of these hard conversations in therapy, before we can start really working on us and finding out where the holes are and what areas need improvement for us to work. The sexual orientation piece in my relationship definitely adds a dynamic, but I just want to listen and learn what my wife's needs are.
Also, I have been taking your advice concerning detachment to heart. It has been difficult at times, but I think it is for the best.
Thanks, man.
I wish I could. She's been awesome. Really gave me a huge week this week with telling me how proud she is of my changes and encouraging me to continue.
Yeah, the list is pretty huge. Can't remember if I said this but I look at the title of the list and saw, "Things for you to do for me to love you."
If that's not motivation, I don't know what is.
Funny thing is...I'm thinking of looking for an office for this month while we're still here. Just to start showing her that I am committed to this.
Keep detaching, Sparks. I know you sitch is tough but stay strong!
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
