I also agree it might be a good idea to have a success stories section.
We should bear in mind that everybody's definition of "success" is going to be different. This is about finding a compromise between two people who want very different things. The middle ground may not be what you imagined it to be, but it would be something that made you both happy.
I am happy with the way our R is now and the way our sex life is. Even tho it is not the love life of my fantasies it is enough. I was not happy before I found the ssm and this BB so that is what I would call success on it's own. Infact I think some others have had more success in improving their sex lives, but I don't believe they are actually any happier than I am. Just better looking.
It's true this is not any easy problem to solve and some people are not going to be able to solve it. I think that at some point you do need your partner to be willing to help and make some changes. If they won't or can't maybe that is when it won't work. However if your partner loves you as most of them do then with some time and effort you will probably get somewhere. It may not be where you intended to go, but it will be somewhere better than where you started out.
I am also grateful to Michelle just for starting up this BB. It has been a real help to me just to know that I am not alone in my problems and to have an understanding group of people to talk to.
