I see your points. I'll be honest, and summarize my situation from the other threads. 2003 move to tkae new job closer to home. 2005 W tells me she has no repsect for me because I'm not super-confident - I was completely crushed. W decides she wants 3rd child - I thought this was a really bad idea, since I suspected she'd want to go back to work ASAP, which would be hard. After 1.5 years of convincing I agreed, because she said she did NOT want to go back to work, but rather stay home and homeschool kids. When youngest son was 2 she went back to work part-time, then a few years ago full time. Each time she siad it would be ok b/c it was only PT, or didn't require travel, or weekends. Each time that turned out not to be the case. The stress of juggling 3 boys' schedules and all this brought on my anxiety - for which I got conseuling and ADs. I felt W was "leaving" our family - I did all the wrong stuff - seeking reassurrance, acting weak. I felt justified since I told W over and over that this situation would be really difficult for me - but she lives in the present and claims not to remember thee conversations. She claimed to not even remember telling me that she had no respect for me - and that conversation lasted a good 3-4 hours. There have been good stretches - esp. when boss isn't around for several weeks - but mostly she feels "conotrolled" b/c she can't just go off and do whatever she wants whenever she wants to. Coudl this be her WAW time? Sure. But I have been a great dad, and mostly a good husband through some very tough times - I have been very (overly) attentive. I've done a lot of work to help with this. W delcined to join me for a counseling session months ago - not a good sign.
Look, I know I brought this on by being weak and whiny. But my W just kept piling on stuff until I broke down. I thought if I did all this she would, basically, love me in return.
