denver, i'm so happy for you this is big but just keep doing what you are doing don't rush anything because of this new turn
and i love that you wrote "hanky panky"
were you by any chance, born in the 1920"s? xo
Seriously grr... you crack me up...
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
It is a stroke of luck that Gram died right now. Or maybe she planned it that way. Nothing like a funeral to pull people together and remember the importance of family. i'm not kidding! And you are handling it beautifully by being supportive and letting your wife and MIL come first before your business.
Maybe you could find some time while in NY to visit Niagara Falls, or some other nice weekend getaway with your wife. Something that will replace the memories of nice OM with nice Denver. You don't have to battle OM. You have to win your wife. He will fade from her mind and her heart if you are in both places.
Continued success Denver! Wishing I had what you had. Keep up the great work. What are we going to do when you leave us after you've gotten your M back?!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Denver, this is sooooooooooooooo awesome!!! I'm so proud of you, sweetie.
Ok, OM is going to be VERY, VERY dangerous right now. It is of paramount importance that you play your hand like there is a billion dollar pot at stake. You can do or say things that can draw your W in or do or say things that will send her back to OM. This time, though, he'll have the heat turned up.
So... you know that impatience thing that comes up sometimes? Don't let it burn you. (I probably should take my own advice). This is not a straight line back (see Bolt) and a few stumbling blocks will litter your path you along the way. Watch out for them. You want your W and your M. Remember that. Even during the frustrating times, you want your W and you want your M...
Did I mention how proud I am of you and how happy I am for you!!!
Question for you Denver, at what point did you make the switch? It seems like you are back to a point where you are showing interest, even pursuing. What triggered that change of action?
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
It seems to be so hard to level everything , not just the downs.... because our lives are so down already that when we have a high it seems so much sweeter, so much higher...
I never thought for example that a phone call from H would send me into a tizzy. I think the last time I felt that way was when I was 16.
Lessons, lessons.....
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
