I suggest you take a big mug of coffee...it's a lot to read.
Jeez, that is a lot to read. I think MLC is playing a part, but so were other issues in our marriage. (nothing more than most couples go thru, but she has zero desire to try at all to work on M)
I'm sorry, I know how much that hurts. I'm in the same position.
I finally had to serve her today, I filed months ago, never served her. Had hope things would change, but now that she's moved out, with OM, I had to or my case would be dismissed. Frankly she seems to want the D, she signed the waiver of service and fax it to my attorney for me.
Im not happy atm, but feel like I am finally starting to move on, even if just a little bit. and starting to adjust to my new life, very slowly.
Well see what happens from here. I don't have my girls this week end, I will miss them. I think Saturday nite I may take them out to dinner, think W will be cool with that.
Unfortunately, I think we are starting to see this affecting the girls, the back and forth all the time, 2 nite each during the week, then 3 day week end, every other week end. Had a big crying spell over the week end while they were with me, my one daughter said she didnt like that we were not all together anymore. The kids always pay the highest price. They're shuttled from pillar to post, their parents squabble over them and they feel like packages for delivery. They don't get a say and it bites for them, because adult needs/demands/expectations trump theirs. My kids are not happy either. Last visit my oldest doodled 'come home' over and over in sharpie marker on paper and didn't even know he was doing it. He told me about it. My youngest begged his Dad to stay when he dropped them off from visitation.
I wish the WAS would understand that where it hurts them most.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
