S_C, well a SH lawsuit is probably unwise. Ws boss used to be a HR lawyer. Really. I could not make this stuff up if I wanted to.
Truegritter, you are absolutely right! We do have problems and she is pulling away, just in the last few days especially. The whole story, plus some ventings are on my other threads (inc "how, oh how, do you stay pleasant...") As you might be able to tell from those, this has me pretty well tied up in knots.
I'll try to be objective here: I have not observed her encouraging this behavior, but I do think she enjoys it and the sense of power it brings her in the office. I do, however, think that boss will keep pushing and with a combination of exotic work trips and alcohol could push this into a PA, or push me into pushing W away because of jealousy.
