TonyP:
In fact I want to take some of the notes from that book and post them in different places to remind me, and maybe show the wife I am trying toi change me. None of this female stuff comes naturally for me, and I can see where some things I have done could really bother my wife. Unfortunately, I don't think my changing into the most wonderful husband in the world is going to make a bit of difference. I don't think many fridgid women ever become UNfridgid.
You know something her TonyP, now that I think of it, that book describes MANY, MANY times throughout the book that women must feel security in the relationship before they can emotionally connect with their man. I can not believe how many times security is brought up in the book, it is a lot. But if us men mention that are sex lives suck to our wives and tell them that we are not happy with where they are sexually, did we just not shatter the idea of security? Our unhappiness with our sex lives no would appear to make us prone to the OW problem, and that would of course make the wife feel unsecure, which then makes her turn off even more to us sexually. It is a self fullfilling prophecy. She knows that she is not meeting her husbands need for sexual fullfillment, which makes her feel less secure, which makes her want sex even less. This is a no win situation for us guys. If we tell our wives that the sex department needs attention, we will in effect cause her to want it even less. Boy this bites!
