It all starts with FRIENDSHIP. You're going back to the beginning in a way. You build the friendship FIRST.
I won't speak for Mike, but I don't think his advice is contraditory. Be the man that she would find attractive and who she wants to be with. But that starts with a friendship.
I'm praying for you.
LIS
Thank you, LIS. Friendship is the basis of all relationships. My wife and I lost a lot of that some years ago, I think. I know we can be at that juncture again, I feel like mine is itching to get out.
BTW, it's so nice to have a female perspective on my situation.