Where has YOUR road taken you, If you don't mind me asking?
I don't mind at all. I was in a similar situation to you.
I have managed to turn things around. Not everything is perfect, but it is much better than it was. I am still learning how to be a better man, I don't think I will ever stop.
I have done a lot of backsliding, even after my W re-committed to the R, but most important is that I have never given up.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A