......are these itty bitty baby steps?

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Missher and Cas, I'm responding to your posts from my previous thread here.

Missher, sauces for grilling.........sounds interesting. Let us know about your top choices, won't you?

First whatever you do always order something different than he does so that you can offer him a bite of yours (tongue in cheek, LOL). Remember when doing this you must first position the food on your fork first then make the offer so you can "feed him". Of course while doing this you can draw his eyes to yours by positioning the fork such that he has to look at you while sampling your food.....this is very sexy.

Second, you can always ask for a bite of his and hopefully he will reciprocate the whole "feeding you" thing. I am sure you know how to make taking that bite of food very sexy.

LOVE these suggestions. Thanks! I will try those the next time XH and I go out to eat.......I'm still keeping my eyes peeled for some activity I can invite XH to do with me that is not restaurant dining or TT.

Cas, my sense is that XH isn't anywhere near ready for a meal at our former home.........maybe on the patio when the weather warms up. You probably remember that XH has a big aversion to doing anything in the kitchen (I don't know the real reason for this). Well, when we lived together I cooked lovely meals from scratch every night even though I worked 60 hours/week. We would sit down together in our dining room with candle light and music (nightly) and eat them together. We loved talking about our days together. I did this because I am a good cook, I wanted to eat healthy meals with healthy ingredients, and also to save money for us. XH used to complain that he did more around the house than I did but since he never cooks he has no concept of how much work it can be to buy groceries and prepare meals. On the other hand, I've been a homeowner as a single woman for 30 years so I have a pretty good idea of what XH was doing around the house. Anyway, inviting XH over for a meal might push some of those old buttons, but maybe there's some middle ground somewhere? I'm open to ideas. That's why I plan to bake the fougasse for saturday morning. The house will smell good and I'll have XH taste the special first press olive oil I bought a few weeks ago.

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