Quote: The answer he got was surprising, these men said that without that special sexual relationship(being lovers), NOTHING ELSE IN LIFE REALLY MATTERS.
That's not that surprising to me. I have kids and have decided that it's not worth divorcing my spouse because of the effect it would have on them. I will stay in this marriage, which is, to me, little more than a legal cohabitation arrangement. But I will not shortchange my needs. If an opportunity comes up to have a sexual affair with OW, I will probably take advantage of it. Frankly, I don't think my wife would be all that surprised, or even that she'd be pissed at me. I once told her that I wasn't going to let her decision on withholding sex affect my sex life, and she was happy with that.
The lack of sex in my life certainly does make me feel empty. The happiest moments are still somewhat hollow, because I don't feel that close to my wife, who I love dearly.
