I still want to make this work

[Denver_2010]

Myself.

I agree, nothing we do is 100% truly altruistic.

I'm not suggesting that you are being selfish Country. Not at all.

I'm trying to get you to figure out why you are REALLY doing this.

Is it bc the outcome is guaranteed to be positive?

Or is it bc it is the right thing for you to do as a person?

The right thing for WHO you are?

Listen man, it would be really easy for any of us here to walk away from our M's. In fact, for most of us, that would be, BY FAR, the easier thing to do. The less painful way.

But... when we first come here, we are hurting really badly. And I don't think that we quite understand WHY we are willing to choose to go forward on a path that is sure to be extremely painful.

At first, we do it bc we are hurt. Bc we feel lonely. Bc we don't want to start over. Bc we think that our S's are making the wrong choices. Bc we want control over something that we don't have control over. The unknown.

So you don't know how all of this will turn out? Yes, that is true... as it pertains to your M...

But one outcome that I can guarantee for you is this...

IF you are doing this for the right reasons... YOU will leave knowing that you did the right thing..the honorable thing... You will leave with your own personal integrity... and stronger than ever.

You might say that it is easy for me to say this bc my situation has taken a very positive turn over the past 2 weeks. But I can tell you that I began to feel what I'm talking about in January... or about 2 months after my W dropped the original bomb on me, and before I began to believe that I had a chance to save my M.

I began to feel that I was truly being the ROCK for my M and for my family... that I was truly being the lighthouse. I began to feel a great sense of pride in this.

This is what I'm getting at here Country...

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Denver