New and need help.

[Seminolewind]

The positive sign since I sent the email is that she is now contacting me in friendly manner. She hasn't done that in a while. She was only contacting me if she needed something.

The dodge ball game was fun! I did come home early and I dressed dang good. I wanted to look like I have been feeling. I sat next to my wife and we had small talk about the girls and I feel great about myself. Ijust wanted to show her I still got it and we will see what happens next. In my family we kind of have a joke about all of us men with the same last name are some sexy b@stards! So I wanted to feel that way today. I bet she is wondering whats up with me today. So no matter what happens I will stay strong for me.

Nothing really new with the divorce papers. I am going to stall on my side for a few days.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I bet she is wondering whats up with me today.

I bet you're not dettached

[Seminolewind]

You are probably correct I just havent figured that out yet. I will try to fake it till I make it. I read the detatching with love web site and I know what I need to do I just need to work that out in my head.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Seminole, don't let that slight poke take away from the fact that you did an outstanding job.

[Seminolewind]

I won't I know I have plenty of work to do and I figure I have nothing but time.

[lostinscared]

Now, feeling sexy is a BIG deal!!! You keep radiating that and heck, yeah, she's going to be wondering and looking your way!

LIS

[iwllbd1]

Seminole
Good to hear your picking youself back up. Somes days its easier than others but I've been at this for a few months and am finding that the "good days" are starting to come more frequently. You will too.

As a father I know how you feel. I find myself worrying about my D2 just as much, hell probably more, than I do about my M. This is not the life any of us wanted for our children. I find strength in my D2 and I know you will find it in your kids. There is no greater feeling then to look into your child's eyes and see how much they love you. Keep being a good dad.

The detaching part is hard. I struggle with it often. To hide something you want so much is not easy. BTW were is the section on detaching with love? I would like to read it.

Stay strong my friend

BITS

[Seminolewind]

I have been thinking about this detachment thing most of the night. I don't have any idea how to get all of these feelings I have out of my head. Will this come with time? I hope I can just get her out of my mind so I can sleep.

I still have my positive attitude and I plan on having a wonderful weekend. I will continue to stay dark and enjoy the new man I have become.

[Truegritter]

Will this come with time? I hope I can just get her out of my mind so I can sleep.

Time yes.

And concious effort.

Do what you need to do to stop the thoughts when the come.

I wore a rubber band on my wrist for a while and snapped it when a negative gutwrenching thought came in to my head.

This part is important Seminole because until you get a handle on your attachment to your W you will not be able to DB effectively.

But more importantly

Reach a place of strength within yourself.

[Seminolewind]

Thank you true I like the rubber band idea. I would try anything to get rid of the negative thoughts. This is why I like this place people that have never met me are willing to help.

Thanks everyone!