It all starts with FRIENDSHIP. You're going back to the beginning in a way. You build the friendship FIRST.
I won't speak for Mike, but I don't think his advice is contraditory. Be the man that she would find attractive and who she wants to be with. But that starts with a friendship.
I'm praying for you.
LIS
Heh, funny we just said the opposite of each other. I actually agree with you, but friendship is a tricky subject because in the context of romantic relationships it can mean:
"Lets just be friends" or "he is a really good friend" or "we are just friends, and I never think of my friends that way".
I think friendship as LIS intends it, and as a starting point for a romantic relationship means something different however. It means mutual respect, treating each other well, not pressuring, allowing each other to be who they are without trying to change them, and many other positive things any strong R needs to thrive.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
