Listen, the gut is usually right. You are in a moment of clarity right now. So, take that message you just sent to me and KEEP IT. You are going to feel hopeless again and you are going to need that to remind you that it is NOT hopeless.
You need to act as if this isn't over. That's it. There is no other possible outcome for you right now. If you BELIEVE that, detaching becomes easier. You wont be so afraid.
Another thing... there is NEVER no hope. I have a very good friend who divorced his wife and ended up remarrying her. Actually, it turns out that this scenario isn't all that unusual. I tell people hope is within ourselves. We cannot look for hope outside of ourselves. You need to trust yourself right now like you never trusted yourself before. You are going to be doing things that your entire being is going to tell you is wrong. MWD is NOT wrong and her methods have worked for so many people. The issue is, can you do it? Can you do what she told you to do? You have to trust yourself that you can and you ARE going to do it.
You find some friends to GAL with. You come here to vent. But believe every minute that you ARE going to keep going. It's over when YOU say it's over and not a minute before.
Got it? There's no in between right now. You are in the fight of your life. I've watched army, navy and marine guys on here say that battling the Taliban was easier. So know what you're getting into. Get prepared for it. And FIGHT. You've done it before and you CAN do it again.
And get involved with some other people here. Start helping them with their situations. You've been here before and DB'd successfully. They NEED your help.
