I will keep working on myself while trying to be the friend she needs.
First part is good. Keep working on yourself.
Second part...why do you think she needs a friend? She needs a husband she trusts and respects. Stop trying to placate her, and work on being a better man.
I know it may seem like I am picking on little details, but the words you choose carry a powerful message about how you think relationships function.
Quick question (and anyone can jump in here): So am I being a husband or a friend to my wife? I keep hearing both sides of the coin in this forum. I mean, I agree with you Mike that I should strive to be a husband she desires, but if that role itself is a turn off for my wife right now, what if being a friend is an appropriate way to help her mourn, release, etc?
