Those explanations still don't explain why she drew the conclusion she was being recorded. You are absolutely certain there is no way she could have discovered your posting here?

Also, on peer pressure. You are a grown man who can make his own decisions based on the advice he is receiving. Nobody is pressuring you into doing anything. That is just playing the victim in this situation, and not taking responsibility for your decisions or actions.

You did the right thing standing up for yourself in my opinion, but as soon as she came to punch holes in your wall, you crumbled in seconds and now are wishing you hadn't said anything. Instead of standing behind doing what you thought was right, you apologized.

You didn't trust her enough? Why should you trust someone who is hell-bent on leaving you and breaking apart your family? Do you really think she has your best interests in mind right now?

She is walking out on you, and you are still excusing her behavior to yourself and to us. I see you still detailing conversations between the two of you and being focused on the R as opposed to working or being willing to examine yourself.

Sorry if this sounds harsh. I really do want to see you prevail, you have not had that lightbulb moment where you get it yet, and it is difficult to watch from the sidelines and feel powerless to switch that lightbulb on for you.

Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A