Your husband is in fact a child in a man's body right now.
If you go into parent ( punitive, lecturing...etc.) mode he will react like a child.
He will lie and behave like a brat.

If you go into child mode with him, you will squabble and he's brought you down to his level.

If you stay in adult mode ( setting appropriate boundaries) he's going to be forced to deal with you ( eventually) on YOUR level.

Yeah yeah, easy to say, not so easy to do in the heat of the moment.
Hope it helps a little anyway.

BITS
Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.