Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

[tdb68]

LIS,

Alot of my 180's revolve around going dark, just because of our sitch. My wife is self employed (works out of the house about half of the week), and I would go home every day for lunch (I only work 3 miles from my house). First thing I am doing, is as soon as I know she is there.. I simply don't go there at all, I am meeting up with old friends for lunch, going out by myself, anything, not to go to the house when she is there. We also used to talk on the phone at least 5 times a day (either one of would initiate the calls), now I try not to call her at all, unless it is children related and can't wait. But, now she seems like she is in a bad mood when I get home and I haven't talked to her all day?? When I have to call her, she seems excited to talk to me, I am thinking (hoping) she is really starting to feel the loss of my friendship and always being there for her. I have been trying to keep everything on the "less personal" if I do have to contact her, like send a text message, but it seems whenever I do, she just picks up the phone and calls anyway (most of the time). I am trying to be level and not ride her roller coaster with her, but, at times it is all that I think this is. I just keep trying to do the right thing, and not be invasive, but be there for her when she needs me... Is this the wrong thing? Am I making it easy for her to be friends and no longer husband and wife???