please help on what i need to do.

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"I just feel so guilty in GAL'ing. I feel that i've messed up my marriage and now i am trying to enjoy myself. I know, very crazy thinking..I just need to stop that."

yep, stop that thinking... regardless of the mistakes you have made, you do deserve to be happy! You need to realize that the mistakes you made in your marriage were made with what you knew at the time. Surely you didn't make your decisions so that you could get divorced. People in general are selfish, we make selfish choices and don't think of the consequences or the affects that they have on others. Take this time to learn what a good husband is/does. Learn what attraction means to a woman. Gal... what does a happy life mean to you. I know everyone thinks that you NEED your wife/ family to be happy, but it just isn't the case. Understand everything you can from these events, give everything else to god and continue to move forward with your life instead of focusing on the past.

Yup, wisely said. I think i just need to do my best and leave the rest to god.

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So it was about 4 days of going dark. But had to break that silence today. Bank contacted me that our accounts went into the negative. Saw some trasnactions that W initiated. I did not what they were. So i had to call her. We cleared it up and brought our account back to where it should be. But i now i feel that going dark phase has been broken

I would love to also have some feedback on this one. W is already looking for some kindergartens for daughter near her parents. She sent me an email with 2 of them and she wanted my opinion. I trust my wife's opinion on the schools. So i dont have a problem if she picks either one. But should i tell her my opinion, or should i tell her i don't care. My reasoning for the latter being that she would know that i am not happy with any of these developments. But if i have to think practically, i guess i should go with giving my opinion.

help!

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^^^ anyone with a feedback?

[2stepboogie]

A person who was unable to make a decision and stick with it come bad or good

Someone who was not strong in accepting what life threw at him and be happy...but instead kept wanting more and made himself unhappy

My W wanted a lion of a husband, not a cat. Unfortunately for us, I turned out to be a mouse!!(at-least when it came to our R

So how is responding that you do not care a 180?

I trust my wife's opinion on the schools. So I don’t have a problem if she picks either one.

I ask again.....So how is responding that you do not care a 180?

You trust your W's judgment?

Your kids will be attending this place for the better part of the day. Your KIDS.

Take a look at the place she has shown u and give a response.

She is asking for an opinion from someone who has described themselves as weak and indecisive.

Do let a good opportunity slip away.

[Navyguy]

It is an extremely fine line that we walk in balancing being there for our kids and contributing to guilt/anger in our W's. I know I am still working on it, and quite frankly I doubt I'll ever figure it out. My M.O. is that if I want to talk to my kids, I'm going to pick up the phone and call. Talking to your daughter only 2 times in the last month? I know she's only 3 and probably not too into talking on the phone yet, but that's crap IMO.

If W asked my opinion on schools, I'd give my opinion.
Definitely don't tell her you don't care.

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Thanks 2step and Navy: thanks so much for your opinion. Yup, i have an opportunity here that i should not miss.

This morning i was feeling down a bit and decided to investigate my feelings a bit. I guess it is because my W has not sent me any info on our daughter over the past week. No text, no email. nothing. Even the previous weeks, the only time she has called was when my daughter apparently started crying for me.

I dont know. Should i expect my W to send anything at all about my daughter?. She's gone totally dark. Yea i am trying to GAL. But a lil part of still longs to hear from her i guess...

[♪CS♪]

Hey Karma, I might have missed it, but have you fought legally to get time with your D. It seems strange she is able to move your D away like that.

[2stepboogie]

Karma,

How are you holding out?

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Hey County song: nope, i have not gone legal on my wife. I am going without a lawyer and decided to first come to an agreement with W. My W has retained a lawyer though.

Hey 2Step: Thanks for checking up. Its been down this weekend. My wife called up today to again discuss the divorce details. I hate it to have these discussions with her.