I just went through the same thing yesterday. H called D14 on the 13th and he was drinking.....asks her what her problem is and she said nothing and he said then why haven't you called or texted me in 3 weeks. Well, she let all of her anger out that she has been holding in for the last 2 years.
She told him he was the adult and he should be calling and checking on her and that all he cares about is drinking and his extended family and his 2 sons (from a high school relationship). And she has him on speaker and he went off on her....I couldn't believe what I heard. He said scr** you and your mother and when you are 18 and come knocking on my door I will tell you the truth and she said I know the truth dad, and I'm sick of you knocking mom down and we have been going through hell for the last 2 years. And she told him to be a man and tell the truth that he was thinking about coming home 3 weeks ago and he does this again and he needs to take care of his family.
It wasn't pretty at all. So anyway instead of him acting like a man he acted her age or really younger. I can't believe he is acting like this again. So he must of ran to his sister and told her everything so she goes off on our D14 on Facebook that she shouldn't talk to father like that and so on.....well, D14 gives it right back to her because his sister was always picking on her whenever H would take her over there for visitation. H's sister could care less about H but they love all of this, not only are me and the kids loosing everything but he is too and that's right up her alley.
He ruined our credit since the separation, and now I have to sell the house since he moved forward with the D when he got mad 3 months ago and I would never be able to buy another one and don't want another mortgage payment for 30 more years. What's the sense? Plus it will take me forever to get my credit back and I have no clue how me are going to survive once the D goes through. There won't be any more spousal (boy, didn't realize how much this hurts, been crying for 2 days now).
So back to D14, she blocked his number so he couldn't text or call her because she was so mad and next thing you know my phone is ringing and it's him. I just hit ignore because I couldn't take him yelling at me, plus when I heard him putting all the blame on me again I was upset.
Yesterday he called twice but I couldn't answer cause I was in the Dr.'s office. The second time he left one of his mean and nasty messages saying that he never told me he loved me 3 weeks ago (which he did), never said he was thinking about coming home (which he did), and never told me to contact his family because they never liked me from day one (which he did), and that is another one of his lies. They even set our wedding date. They couldn't wait for us to get married.
He didn't talk to them for over 12 years, and when we separated he made up with them and must have told them lies about me and blamed me for him not speaking to them.
He is making me feel like I'm cracking up. Do all MLCer's lie as bad as he does? Why lie? And what is with this going back and forth. Our D14 said, wait and see he will be calling in 3 weeks again. But I blocked his number also, so in return he blocked mine. He also told me in the message for me and my D14 (yep, no typo he said my daughter), to go through his lawyer if we wanted to contact him and to never call or text him again.
I really need help on this one.
I'm glad at least you and ex are getting along for the kid's sake. I would do anything at this point for that to happen.
