Hi Geo, so sorry for the sitch you are in. KarenR is right shorter posts or ones split into short segments are easier to follow. This is something I am struggling with.

Post often, participate in other forums. The volume of support and ideas here is awesome. It can be overwhelming at first.

180s, GAL are good place to start, make them for you and your improvement. Include the kids so she doesn’t perceive she is responsible for them while you play. When you are happier and more confident you will become more interesting.

Be welcoming and supportive, and give space.

Do not be needy, clingy, or pressuring. Do not snoop her FB, become more interesting than FB.


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Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill