Ah. The in love experience or the obsession masked as love has faded. Welcome to real love. Not the kind of love you feel when you get those butterflies or your every thought is consumed by your spouse. No. I am talking about real love. The one that recognizes your partner has bad breath sometimes or one foot is shorter than the other or he has a sleepy eye BUT you still love them anyways. When you can recognize their imperfections and still love them for all their short comings.
Yes, grr. You deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you. And, this is a good opportunity for you to work on yourself in preparation for that ... with your H or with somebody else.
We need to work on ourselves because #1) we contributed to the failure of the old M
and 2), we chose these people who became defective spouses
And we don't want to repeat these mistakes.
Maybe sleepy eye = lazy eye?
B.I.T.S
Formerly known as onStepAtATime Me:31 W:31 T:13 yrs M:8 yrs D: 20 months ILYBNILWY: 9/22/10 "I want a separation" 1/05/11
Yes, Ironman. It does. Probably a bad joke on my part last night. I was feeling feisty.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
"Yes, grr. You deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you. And, this is a good opportunity for you to work on yourself in preparation for that ... with your H or with somebody else." ironman, i love this thanks, although, i'm pretty great already. just ask the bits for those who don't know me well, which is all of you, i'm kidding
''Yes, Ironman. It does. Probably a bad joke on my part last night. I was feeling feisty. " denver, your "feisty" is part of the reason i love you!
"Yes, grr. You deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you. And, this is a good opportunity for you to work on yourself in preparation for that ... with your H or with somebody else." ironman, i love this thanks, although, i'm pretty great already. just ask the bits for those who don't know me well, which is all of you, i'm kidding
Haha. Well, like me, grrr, seems humility is your best trait then :-) haha
B.I.T.S
Formerly known as onStepAtATime Me:31 W:31 T:13 yrs M:8 yrs D: 20 months ILYBNILWY: 9/22/10 "I want a separation" 1/05/11
lis, thank you for asking a hard 2 days just got to the west coast last night h was already here (at our 2nd home) before i left yesterday, we got some very bad news about my dad he is already infirm, mostly paralyzed from a massive stroke some 10 years ago now he has something else to deal with, that i don't want to write (don't wanna say the word) but it is not good h was great on the phone, but when i got here he did not ask about dad or how i was doing proceeded to tell me that he was going to take s up north for a few days to see his dad really?? i thought if i were just your friend, would you not even think that i might not like to be alone at a time like this but i kept my cool and said yes, that's fine this is just how he is maybe it seems needy, i don't know, but i'm a bit of a mess right now and rambling around this big house on my own will even be more depressing i just feel like he could be a bit more sensitive at this time even just saying..."do you want to come with us" or do you want to keep s with you i dont know maybe he is doing what he thinks is best for our sitch or maybe, like usual, he is just not thinking anyway, don't want to be in this funk tonight will be sleepless again and i'm sure i will see you all on the board in the wee hours hope everyone is ok today i really do