WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

Just journaling.

W again 2 nights ago told me that "karma is paying her back". I told her that must not be fun. We talked a bit, and she was really convinced that the universe was getting her back. I'm not sure what she would think she did to deserve this.

Last night, I had my last dinner with my co-workers as this is my last week at this job.

I got home at 10:30. I didn't let her know when I would be home. I used to ALWAYS let her know where I was and what I was up to. Not letting her know what I'm up to causes me to have anxiety ... but ... I am getting better at just living for me and my D. Its not my responsibility to keep my W happy anymore. She is her problem.

When I got home, I went downstairs and she was watching a movie. I sat there for a minute and she pouted. Previously, I would've asked her what was wrong, and tried to fix problems for her, to make her happy.

I just let her mope. After a bit, I asked her how her day went since asking her about work and really listening has been very effective in warming her towards me.

She was all pissy and said she didn't want to talk about. So, I kept my mouth shut until movie was over. Then, I told her I was going to bed. She then kind of whimpered "I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to be rude I just didn't want to talk about my day". I warmly said it was ok .... no worries and went to bed.

Last time she acted like this was right before she told me that she was worried she was making a mistake in leaving. Strange things are happening because I'm truly happy right now and she isn't. But what's this? I thought I was the problem in her life?