It's been 3 months, right? And I doubt you made all of those changes on day 1. Meaning that it's probably going to take awhile to make those changes.
I wouldn't think of the mortgage thing so much as her feeling that she is trapped. She is getting knocked into reality. That's different. My H went through a similar thing. He lost 30 lbs. during this period (he didn't have 30 lbs to lose). He got very depressed. They spend sooooooo long with this fantasy about leaving and then reality strikes. This is a good thing, though, because then it gives them an opportunity to finally look at you and see the changes.
Stay the course, you're doing well!!!!
I'm praying for you.
LIS
Agreed LIS, I do know that the changes have come over the 3 month period and in some cases it's probably only been a couple weeks of her noticing. I realize that it will take some time as it took time to get into this sitch.
Timeline wise I have until about April/May until we would need to make a decision about selling the house.
A few months to have it listed and possibly sell it. Then a another couple months to close it, likely in time for next school year to start (September).
So time is on my side to a point, and I need to remain patient.
SIC
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
