Thanks for all of the replies, they have really helped. It looks like my first step is going dark, night one is in the books. I did not contact her last night. I woke up this morning to a text asking how our D did last night, I will let it go. She will see her tonight.
I have our D Fri-Sun night, I know she will inquire more through that stretch. I will send a pic if necessary, but no text to go with it, sound OK?
BTW, I have read DR, and have re-read the sections that apply to me. I have also had one telephone session, I plan on having the second one early next week. I will also get her opinion on where to go next.
The dating thing seems to be a complicated issue, I think I'll put that on hold for now. I guess I was just looking for a way to help myself feel good about myself again. Maybe not the best way to do it.
Thanks again, keep it coming, this really helps!
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