My Wife Wants to Separate

[zengypsy]

DF:

Sorry for the delayed response but I just had some time now to catch up on your sitch.

Your W is all over the place with her emotions. It appears to me based on what you wrote that she has some anger management issues. Has she individually or you both together have spoken to a medical professional about this? Has she ever been diagnosed with depression?

In terms of who should move out, since you seem to be the more stable parent at the moment and your children need to come first, if you moved out how would that effect the kids in terms of school? And, same question applies to if she moved out? I think that should be your focus on how to make this situation best for your children. Have you spoken to a L? If not you should ASAP; just for a consult because it sounds like she is trying to use your children in a very negative way.

If she was/is having issues with her own family and your not having issues with your own family, why would you cut off ties with them? I don't mean to come across as insensative, but she sounds very manipulative. If she has problems within her own family, she needs to really try and work thru them with a C. If she is not willing, then she needs to let them go because the past is the past. It's not going to change and harboring resentment is just so counterproductive on so many levels. Look at how its effecting your M and her life.

I'm glad the MC session seemed to go pretty well under the curcimstances, but I strongly suggest that you somehow get her to agree to get some kind of medical help for herself. Be supportive and put a positive spin on it.

My heart goes out to you and keep DB'g. It sounds like you are able to apply certain metods from the book so that's good. It will help you become stronger.

Sending you positive vibes DF...keep posting; I will follow your story!