The one thing I believe is that it truly would not have mattered whether I was a perfect wife or a biotch on wheels to my H, this would have ended up happening anyway. I believe in MLC, not as an excuse to absolve me of guilt or to excuse H of his choices. I believe it because it is the only thing that makes any sense of the profound changes in the man I used to know, right down to what his core values were. I went seeking answers to what happened to him and believe I understand now.
SA, That right there says it all and moreover the real blessing in all this mess is that through trying to "understand" our MLC spouses we inturn gain a deeper more meaningful "understanding" of ourselves.
Connecting with the people here on the boards is truly amazing. I think because we come here without anything else that normally impedes the developement of a truly "honest" relationship we can connect with each other on a much deeper level.
Funny how we struggle to acheive this deeper level of understanding with the people in our everyday lives, but here it happens so easily.
We are blessed by having you here also.
Happy Little Friday !!!
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
