Well Wii I know he meant it in a teasing way but you are right it was not very mature of him...
I mention it because his "teasing" always seems to be in ways that reinforce the idea that you're dumb. It's not a one time thing for him but a pattern, which I see as emotional abuse. Even when he does a nice gesture (which I think is part of an ongoing stealth campaign to keep his bread buttered on both sides...sorry I'm no Dan Fan!) he has to spoil it by a big "Duh". Anyway, just my initial reactions to what I read...take it or leave it
Oh I agree Wii....it is definitely a pattern. City Girl said something on another thread about her ex and other's with that type of personality...that they want to keep 'their minions' in their place. I can see that.
Sorry, no can do! "other's" is etched into my memory forever. On the DB site there is not editing or tape delay, it's real life punctual drama at it's finest.
ahhhh.. Dan throwing another hook in the water to see if you bite or nibble. Grrrrrrr
On the 8 date thing, I think I would maybe just ask him over the phone and get it settled. You are both adults so instead of wondering you take the lead and find out if you both are taking it slow or if he just wants to be friends. But don't start out by saying your fine either way. Let his feelings be known first. But it is time to pose the question my dear.
Dating is weird at this stage for sure!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Not sure what his deal is but as often as he is crabby, when he is not I will embrace it!
He just had kids call to tell me goodnight. He was asking Nathan about his spelling list and other things while Nathan was talking to me...once I hung up he called right back and asked me about a few papers in the kids' bags.
Nathan had an English worksheet where they had to put the proper punctuation at the end of the sentences. A couple of them were:
1. We are going fishing today
2. Don't drop it
Dan was upset that several sentences could be construed in multiple ways and Nathan missed a couple but had good reason for what he put. Anyway I agreed (his teacher this year is a bit flaky she is in the middle of a high risk pregnancy and thus not really focused on teaching). Anyway he was frustrated but not at me which was a welcome change.
Then I said something about I couldn't talk to his teacher tomorrow bc I was meeting with the Supt and a big committee all day tomorrow for a panel that I am on. And he says, "Well when you see the Super tomorrow tell him your husband is frustrated with the school."
Yeah, except he isn't my husband anymore! I didn't say that though I just said, "You have his email, I am sure you can tell him what you are concerned about."
OK time to go run. I have been avoiding it all day but it's time...I always feel better after it is just hard to get started sometimes.
