I want you to know that you are taking on a lot of blame here and yet not really seeing the reality of what is REALLY going on. You have danced around the issue a few times in your posts in the last few months, but seem to be unable to handle the truth and reality of what is going on...
Your wife is having an affair..
How do I know this?
Well, other than the hundreds of obvious other signs she has been dropping..
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Shortly after that my W said she really wasn't feeling good so she wanted to go back to the room to lie down for a bit. She asked me to walk her back - which I did. It was around 9:15pm, and I asked her if she could make sure to come back before midnight for the New Years celebration, as I really wanted to spend it with my W. She promised me she back down by 11:30pm. 11:30pm came and went and I was just watching for her to walk through the door but soon people were drinking champaine and yelling happy New Year. I was a mess, just devasted that she just sleep through. So I decided it would be best to go check on her and make sure she was ok. I get back to the room and SHE'S NOT THERE!! So now I am panicing, thinking she's literally left me here and gone home (over an hour drive home).
I go back to the reception to see if somehow we've just missed each other. She's not there, so I head back to the room and she's in the room! So I immediately asked her were she was because she said she was going to be sleeping.
She had decieded that she wanted to go and see her M on New Years, so she drove all the way home without telling me and said that she had planned to be back in time to celebrate New Years with me. I told her she was lieing, that she had fully intended to drive back home and she didn't care if she came back to be with me for New Years. She said she honestly believed "That you wouldn't care if I was there." I course that just made me angry, I told her that all I wanted was to spend it with her, and that I couldn't believe that she didn't care enough to tell me so I wouldn't be waiting around for her.
SIC, You DO knosw don't you that this was a lie? She is covering for going to see her affair partner. You fell for it hook, line and sinker.
Stop taking all the blame here. You need to do some detective work and find out who this affair is with. Stop being naive. This has been going on for awhile..
Remember when her worked called her wanting her to come in and you thought she was already at work? Remember she had it on the calendar?
That was another big error she made and you failed to see it.
I know it is hard to admit when your spouse is having an affair, but until you flush this out, you are heading down a dead end road...
Wise up.. Stop asking her IF she is having one. They almost ALWAYS lie when in the midst of an affair. However, her actions are showing again and again and again that there is someone else in the picture..
