Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

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Really having trouble with the whole "going dark" thing. I find it is almost impossible with kids, and still living in the same house. Dinner has been on the table when I walk through the door every single night she she told me she wants a divorce, has it set up so that the "family" eats dinner together more consistently than ever. Is she doing this out of guilt? maybe? She is the one wanting to leave, so, is she having second thoughts already? I am doing as much as I can for going dark, we used to talk 4 or 5 times a day on the phone, now I have just stopped calling her. How do I go dark when we still live together? Anyone else, have to try to go dark while living under the same roof? Do I just let her move out and forward and then go dark and see if she comes back?