Denver I told my wife in the email that by her having the afair it made me realize that I could live without her and I realized now that I really just wanted someone that loved me. I said now that you are happy maybe we both can be happy and move forward in our lives. I also told her that I didn't know if we could ever be friends again but we do have two beautiful kids together that are going to need their mother and father. Then on the list that she gave me I validated the whole list in a way that I agreed how I had been lacking in the marriage.
Now for the reason that I did this. I think she has backed off from the OM and I think she is really fighting herself in this whole situation. I know this woman really well and I also know that she is very confused and she is not thinking clearly.
We had parent teacher conferences before the texting. I didn't mention the email, I just went and talked with the teachers about our kids then she started initiating conversation. I haven't talked to her since Sunday when she called about the water heater. Now she started the texting then a brief phone call, so that is a move in a different direction. Our youngest has a dodge ball tournament today, she asked if I was going and I said yes. She told me how excited she was about the tournament. Something changed in her attitude with me in the last 24 hours. So I say a positive sign. I might be wrong but I am going to continue being the upbeat, happy go lucky kind of guy I used to be long ago.
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
