Young Couple with WAW

[Denver_2010]

IW - Sorry man. I just haven't seen your thread in a while. It seems to be buried.

IMO, I would not agree to help your W with the D process in any way shape or form. You can agree to cooperate, but not help.

You want to put off the start of the process as long as possible. TIME is your best friend, so you want to have as much of it as possible.

At the end of Dec or beginning of Jan, I forget, my W asked me if I would agree to jointly file for a legal separation. This is what I told her:

“W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.

You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.

I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.

I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.”

If this is how you feel. This is a great way to say it IMO.

YOU take the power back. YOU have made YOUR decision.

You are not placing anything in her hands except her own choice to come back to the M.

You will not be a victim of her choice either way.

Can't take credit for that. Found it on someone else's thread. But I think that it is a good way of communicating this to your W.

I will try to stay up with your thread. Keep posting often though. You should be upgraded to 'member' instead of 'new member' soon. This will allow your posts to show up immediately and bump your thread to the top of page one.

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Denver