Ahhh SIC... that was a tough conversation to have, I'm sure. I'm sorry that you are hurting. I wish that there was something that I could say to you.

I think that you did a great job with how you handled it though. There is nothing that you can do or say right now that is going to change your W's PERCEPTION of her reality. Get what I mean. You see things one way... she sees them another. You can't change that.

There is a book that I'd mention here if I thought that I could, but it is about 4 things in life that we should live by... to be happier.

One of those 4 things is to NOT take things personally... it means that NOTHING others do is bc of you.... That what others do or say is a projection of their own reality, their dream. .. If you remember this, and become immune to the actions of others, you can avoid a lot of undue personal suffering.

Your W is hurting too. She is confused too. Trust me. But this is something that she is going to have to figure out on her own. You cannot help her.

What you CAN do is be the best SIC that you can be... each and every day.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce