You are 100% right. My nature is to defend my cause when being attacked. One of the factors that led to my M breakdown. Almost doomed me with comms with my W.
She is on one side of the door and you are on the other. She more you push the more pressure you encounter. Let go of the door and see what happens.
She will have no reason to continue to apply pressure. The more she attacks the less you should defend.
