When I let go of what I'm,I become what I might B

[2stepboogie]

grr, denver:

I felt the same way about the blah comment. I won't guess and I won't mind read I am just saying that I found it note worthy enough to mention.

Denver I am honored that your 1000 post was on my thread!

I am sure you did that on purpose

[Denver_2010]

Wow... 1000 posts?! I hadn't even noticed. Not sure what to think of that...

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Denver

[grr]

hey 2step, if you are still around
hit me with a 2 by 4
my s and i are going to our other home in cross country tomorrow
h is already there (got there today)
he called tonight to make sure i knew he was not going to stay with us
i got angry (i don't know what to tell my s) and the venom flew
h was not pleased and stated that "this is what a separation is"
i said i was sorry, but oh boy, damage done
ok, hit me

[Denver_2010]

Consider yourself hit grr...

Question grr... Did your habit to impulsively react to H have anything to do with breakdown of M?

Just wondering...

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Denver

[what next?]

*whew* I needed to hear that Denver... lol (I know you weren't talking to me but...)

Earlier today I was like "This is exactly what my W needs... she tried and I had no clue what she was doing. I argued and tried to show her how illogical she was being and that did me in. I NEED to have these conversations!"

Then everyone got on here and talked about how she was going too far and she needed to own up to her end of the deal. I started thinking. "YEAH, I didn't get us here all by myself. How can I get her to take her share?" ...but that would just not be possible lol. I need to let her vent and not be defensive. I'm back to hoping I can get her to call me when she is frustrated. Not trying to figure out how I can get her to understand her role in this mess.

*whew*

[what next?]

I *whew*'d twice... lol

[grr]

yes, i think so
i am very quick with my words
this time what did it was me telling him if he wanted a divorce, i would give it to him gladly
of course i didn't mean it
i was reacting to something
and he has asked me for a divorce numerous times
but if my words can affect him like this
i believe he was looking for an excuse
my actions have not said divorce
tomorrow i will write more about this
as i would love to get feedback from my male bits
how are you tonight?

[2stepboogie]

grr,

Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.

Damage done but it's ok.

Regroup

Stay Calm

2step has you

[grr]

awww 2step, thank you
now i take back what i just said about you on denvers thread
i really, truly do
xoxo

[Denver_2010]

Exactly Next. Who cares if she takes responsibility for her role in the breakdown in the M if she is going to D you anyway! You gotta get past the WAS part first, get S back in the M... then is the time for BOTH people to take responsibility for their role in making the M healthy going forward.

It simply doesn't matter while they are in WAS mode... We aren't going to get a WAS back by asking them to take take some blame... they're gone anyhow.

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Denver