I am sorry I've been absent I just got caught up I will tell you I see somethings here. First you have been getting great advice SBH explained it perfectly.
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I'm going stay detached for the next few days.
You are not detaching. You are creating space. I will tell you why, actually you will tell us why.
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I'm having a hard time imagining myself without her right now
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I'm having a hard time imagining myself without her right now.
Detachment with love means caring enough about your W to allow her to learn from her mistakes.
It also means being responsible for our own welfare and making decisions without ulterior motives-the desire to control others.
Ultimately we are powerless to control others anyway
Perhaps the essence of detachment with love is responding with choice rather than reacting with anxiety
Detachment with love offers another option -- responding to others based on thought rather than anxiety.
If you are going to detach then do it for Bolt not expecting or reacting to anything that she says or does.
Make sense?
Anger always comes from frustrated expectations.
Keep your expectations low and you will never be disappointed.
