I still want to make this work

[Denver_2010]

It got us from the point where she didn't want to talk to me at all, to where now she is comfortable coming by the house while I'm here to grab things, initiate phone calls and text, etc. However, I can feel like it has hit a plateau. Definitely no mention of R or reconciliation.

Ummm... it got you to the point where your W gets her A and be friends with you too. That seems like a pretty good deal for her Country. I'm not trying to be mean when I say that... Just real.

Let me describe our interactions a little bit. On the nights I have our D my W will usually text "How is the girl? "Send a pic," etc. And on the nights she has her she will send pics as well. These are our main interactions. Between these there are occasional stints of light conversation, for example I told her about the new Radiohead album this morning.

So, the conversations in between, I can cut our easily. But tonight for example, I have our D. She texts and asks for a pic. I just ignore it? Seems hard to do without coming off as angry for some reason.

Ok... you can send her a picture of your D without commenting can't you?

The point is not to be 'angry' with your W, but to get her wondering what you are doing. If she asks why you don't reply to something... or why you send a picture without commenting, tell her you are busy enjoying your time with your D. If you're not with your W, just tell her that you are busy and don't have time to chit chat with her.

Listen man, your W left you... NOT the other way around. If she wants to know about a Radiohead album, her OM can find it for her... or she can find it herself. If you EVER want her to miss YOU, then you are going to have to become less available to her. Why would she miss you when she knows that you are just there hanging around as a 'friend'?

I know that its tough... especially bc you have young D. And that definitely needs to come first always. I just think that you need to communicate to your W in a NONverbal way that you are not just sitting around waiting for her OR that you are just fine and dandy that you two are friends.

JMO.

BITS
Denver

P.S. Dating is a bad idea IMO... Take the high road Country... be the ROCK in your M.... Your W sure as hell isn't.