As you can see some different thoughts.

I originally said send it.

Because I had to draw a boundary for ME to move on.

Not written to blame

Not written for a reaction or decision

But for YOU

How you feel

And letting go

It was a good thing for me to do.

And you did preface all this that it was only for YOU

Is it selfish to put that on him now?

The only question is it guilt applied by you?

If I ask myself that same question the answer is probably yes.

Not intentional but I responded.

With my boundary. Until OM is gone. No contact and I am moving forward with my life.

Is that guilt?

Her choice to make that decision.

I didn't mention the damage she has caused me, no guilt for that, because that is my responsibility not hers

I think as long as you keep the guilt related to their actions, and not its effect on you, I mean as to their choice, then it is well placed.

I don't know just thinking out loud.

You are a wise lady and you know what I am trying to say...

yes?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am