If I didn't want someone I wouldn't want them pursuing me.
With this in mind, I am learning to trust my WAWs intuition. Right now she is saying she doesn't want me or any man.
She says she wants time and space to herself.
Many problems have arisen because I did not really hear or respect what she was saying.
I tried to second guess her and do what I felt was best, instead of working with her.
She has said she doesn't want to be married right now. She says she is not sure of divorce is the right decision, but she feels compelled to make a decision instead of being wishy washy, so I am respecting her desire to work through it on her own.
In the past, by trying to force the issues, trying to control the outcomes, and refusing to let nature take it's course, I not only robbed both of us the beauty, grace and enjoyment of being fully in the moment, I compounded my own feelings of inadequacy.
For me the guidelines are friendship and respect.
If my friend told me something that he or she really needed, would I honor what they are telling me and truly respect their needs?
Would I offer them my support and trust them to make their own decisions? Or would I keep on try to persuade them to do it my way yet again?
Great topic.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
