E.T. phoned home!!!

[Augtan]

Thanks Nic, I am in a better place in so many ways. It is hard everyday, but I do live in peace most days!

XH tried to call me last night, I ignored him cause I was writing a paper and didn't have time. He called again today and I was in software training and couldn't answer, waite awhile and texed him "in training..what's up?" He said to call him when I could. Called him and he wanted to update me on his job search. We talked a bit and then I brought up his conversation with D11, he got upset a few time, but I was completely calm and just told him exactly like it is. We agreed that if he gets this job he thinks he will get that we will try to move to Florida, not really "together" but that we will move to the same place so the kids can have him in their life each day. D18 wants to go to college there, but is apprehensive unless we move down there to be closer to her, she has some issues and needs us. It will take a lot to make that happen, but we shall see. We both admitted that we made huge mistakes post A and need to do what is right for the kids, I told him that blaming each other and not putting the past behind us isn't good and we need to realize that no matter what we do we can't go back..he said he would go back and do things different if he could. I said we need to not worry about that and move forward.

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